Why regret is an advantage

‘Never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.’  Victoria Holt

Do you regret not having kept up with something you started a long time ago? Ever asked yourself where you’d be now if you had kept up with it?

 I have a few regrets of my own. Some of them are so painful I haven’t told anyone. One that I can share is that I started a blog year ago, and then stopped. And I keep wondering how much online content I’d have now if I had just kept it up.

 Well, if you have a few regrets like that, here’s the good news. You can use them to your advantage. Get started on something important to you, and every time it gets hard and you feel like giving up, think about how much you regret having previously given up on something important.

 It really works. Psychologists call this ‘anticipated regret’, and they’ve found it can be a great motivator with keeping up resolutions (e.g. exercising).

 We all make mistakes. That’s okay. We’re all human, and mistakes are one of the many ways we learn about life and what is important to us. But don’t let those mistakes stop you from trying again, this time with the benefit of hindsight. You’ll be far more likely to succeed the second time around.

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Alexa Ispas

I am a social entrepreneur, blogger, and talent scout, interested in helping people who want to create legacy. I have recently completed my PhD thesis in social psychology at the University of Edinburgh, and am originally from Romania. I am writing a daily blog on creating legacy, which you can find at www.alexaispas.com