Legacy think: What is your confidence rock?

‘I love the confidence that makeup gives me.’  Tyra Banks

You want to create legacy. You are ready for the battle, and are rearing to go. Before you do, one word of warning: make sure you know where to find your confidence rock.

Your confidence rock is something you have that inspires you with confidence. Somehing that makes you smile in times of trouble, which gives you hope that everything is going to turn out okay after all.

Here are a few examples of what your confidence rock might be:

Your looks. Think of Princess Diana or Paris Hilton. If good looks are your confidence rock, make sure you take extra good care of them, so you do not lose them prematurely.

Your skills. You may derive confidence from knowing you are really good at fixing computers, or organising people, or writing blog posts. If your confidence rock is something like playing the piano, make sure you have access to a piano when you need to reach for your rock.

A special talent. You may be really talented at acting, singing, or writing. A talent can give you a real boost when you feel that everything else is against you. For example, if you are trying to get into acting, having ‘acting talent’ as your confidence rock will help you keep going to auditions regardless of how many times you get rejected.

Your qualifications. Some people feel more confident having gained particular qualifications, such as a postgraduate degree or a diploma in a specific subject. Do not use studying for these qualifications as an excuse not to pursue your legacy goal, but if you already have such qualifications before embarking on your goal, you may be able to use them as your confidence rock.

Specific resources. Having money in the bank can be a confidence rock for some, as it means independence and not having to settle for the first opportunity that comes your way. Other resources can be a place to live, couture clothes or, as in the case of Tyra Banks, makeup.

People in your life. Your confidence rock may be your partner, your best friend, or your manager. If this is the case, make sure the person in question is really trustworthy, or try to have several people as your confidence rocks.

You can have more than one confidence rock. And your rock might be different depending on the situation. For example, knowing you still have money in the bank makes you appear less desperate (and therefore more appealing) in a job interview, while your stand-up comedy talent may be your confidence rock when going to a party.

What is important is this: know what your confidence rock(s) is (are), and reach for it when the going gets tough. It will give you the strength to keep going, regardless of the obstacles blocking your way.

The time is now.

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Alexa Ispas

I am a social entrepreneur, blogger, and talent scout, interested in helping people who want to create legacy. I have recently completed my PhD thesis in social psychology at the University of Edinburgh, and am originally from Romania. I am writing a daily blog on creating legacy, which you can find at www.alexaispas.com