• How to keep your resolutions

    ‘A change in bad habits leads to a change in life.’  Jenny Craig

    Let’s face it. How many times have you decided to eat healthy foods? To take up exercise? To keep a diary?

    No, I’m not trying to guilt-trip you. I just want to introduce you to this wonderful blog called 6Changes. It’s been recently set up by Leo Babauta (the author of the popular Zen Habits blog). 

    The 6Changes title is based on the first piece of advice given by Leo Babauta: if you want to make positive changes in your life, only decide on six of these for the year, and tackle them one at a time. 

    As the author explains, six changes in a year divides into 2 months spent on each, and this further divides into just over eight weeks per change. This allows you to set 8 milestones for turning each of your resolutions into a lifelong habit.

     By approaching the changes you want to make in your life in this methodical way, you are more likely to stick to your resolutions, rather than abandoning them when things get too much.

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  • Forgive yourself, you’re human

    ‘We achieve inner health only through forgiveness – the forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves.’  Joshua Loth Leibman

    We’re often much harsher on ourselves than on others, when making mistakes. And this sometimes leads to giving up on our goals and not giving ourselves a second chance.

     There’s a famous story told about Tom Watson, the founder of IBM. One of his employees had made a mistake that had cost the company ten million dollars. After the mistake was discovered, the employee walked into Watson’s office assuming he’ll get fired. Instead, Watson looked at him and said ‘Are you kidding? We’ve just spent ten million dollars training you’.

     Okay, the above is more likely to be a widespread urban myth than a real story, but the point still stands. Your mistakes will help you in pursuing your goals, so don’t give up on the goals just because you are making mistakes along the way. 

     Be kind to yourself, and forgive. Learn from your mistakes, but don’t let them become doubts about your ability to accomplish what you set out, nor excuses for giving up. Change your strategy, if necessary, but don’t doubt yourself just because you are making mistakes. Just put them down to experience, and give yourself a break.

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  • Acknowledge, then move on

    ‘Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation.’  Michael Jordan

    Something really shit happened to me today. It’s still far too painful to share here, but what I can share with you is how I am getting over it. First, I was so numb I couldn’t feel the pain or do anything else, so I just stared into space for a while. When the numbness started falling away, I told my partner about what had happened. And as I was talking, the pain grabbed hold of me.

    The pain got bigger and bigger, and I began crying uncontrollably. I let the tears flow, and talked and talked while my partner listened. Sometimes the tears would stop, but then they would come back again. I let the tears flow, and the words come out, while my partner was hugging me and telling me that everything was going to be okay.

    But the most important thing I did was this: acknowledge, and then move on. I can’t change what happened. But I can acknowledge it, and the pain it has caused me. I can allow myself to feel the pain, and to grieve for what cannot be undone. But once I feel strong again after grieving, I move on. I’ve already started moving on by making sure what happened does not take me away from the things I love doing, such as writing for my blog. In fact, I am using the pain to motivate me to write this very message you are reading.

    Once the pain subsides, I will use the insight that’s left from what has happened to write a play I had been planning for a while. I will also write a song about it. I have already composed some of the lyrics and the chorus tune while dealing with the pain, and I think I’ve now got enough material there to finish the song once I feel stronger.

    This is how I move on. I use the bad thing that has happened as a way to fuel my creativity, and help others in their healing process. Life’s not perfect. Nor are people. And yet, it’s precisely because of their imperfections that when people do make the hard choices despite all their greed, fear, and lust, they are so sublimely beautiful. For us to discover this side of humanity, we also have to experience the ugly side. It’s okay. It’s part of being human.

    And part of creating legacy is to channel all the pain and filth inside us into something positive. What comes out of us in such moments will give meaning to our negative experiences, and make us realise things were meant to happen like that all along.

     Next time something bad happens to you, try taking this approach. You will be getting one step closer to fulfilling your potential in this world.

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  • 5 reasons why obstacles are your friends

    ‘Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind.’  Leonardo da Vinci

    1. Obstacles make you rise to the challenge. The bigger the obstacles, the more resourceful you will have to be in overcoming it. This will help you develop further than if things had gone smoothly.

    2. Obstacles insulate you from the competition. If things were easy, you would have far more competitors. Once you overcome the obstacle, you have put one more barrier that will make it difficult to catch up with you.

    3. Obstacles point to the bigger picture. All obstacles are there for a reason. Figure out the reason, and you get an insight into the meaning of your journey

    4. Obstacles make good PR stories. Think of J.K. Rowling, and all the obstacles she had to overcome to get Harry Potter published. Yet it is these very obstacles that have made her story so endearing to the public, making her success all the more inspiring.

    5. Obstacles help you find true friends. The people that will stick by you during difficult times are likely to become lifelong friends. Much better than those who are only there when things are happy and bright.

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  • How much is your time worth?

     

     ‘Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.’  Steve Jobs

    There’s an old saying, that ‘time is money’. Wrong. So wrong.

     Time cannot be calculated in money. If you waste money, there are usually ways to get it back, sometimes tenfold. You may find more money, you may inherit it, you may be struck by a profitable idea etc. 

     Waste time, and it’s gone forever. That’s it. You cannot get it back. Nor can you tell when your time in this life will be up for you.

     So if there’s something you are determined to accomplish in this life, don’t waste time. Work towards accomplishing it every day.

     Yes, you do have to be able to survive while working towards your project, and for that you need money. But don’t let making money become more important than what you want to accomplish. No matter how exhausted you are from making money, don’t let any single day pass by when you’re not getting one step closer to accomplishing your goal.

     The time is now, and it’s priceless.

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  • Are you an ugly duckling?

     ‘In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.’  Coco Chanel

    You know the story. The ugly duckling that doesn’t fit in with his neighbours. He keeps going from place to place, constantly trying to fit in, and failing every single time.

     Is that you? Do you get ostracised for being different? And do you wish you were the same as the people around you, so you can belong?

     Well, you know what happens in the story. The ugly duckling decides that being different is okay. And when he takes that step, he realises he is a beautiful swan, and everybody starts admiring him. 

     If you’re the kind of person who wants to change the world, to make a meaningful difference, chances are you know what it’s like to be an ugly duckling. As Hugh MacLeod says, big ideas have lonely childhoods.

     Don’t worry. The world needs people like you. The world needs to be challenged by difference in order to survive and evolve.

     And you know what? You may be feeling lonely right now, but you’re not alone. There are people out there who dream big dreams. It’s just that they usually keep quiet about their dreams, because they are afraid of others crushing their dreams. If you’re one of these people, we can be strong together. Welcome to the adventure, and rock on.

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